Defining a New Complete Man

Sometimes we have to endure a struggle in order to move forward. Last week, was my struggle. I did not have a “good” attitude with anything ranging from work, home, and church. Things did not fall into place for me at all, but I continued to move on. I wouldn’t say that I continued to move forward, just move. Moving in a direction that made me relish on what I was doing with my life and understanding my past. My revelation on my past came this Saturday when I went back home to Huntsville. When I need peace and I have to get away, I go home. The saying, “there is no place like home” is a reality to me. I had to get back to basics and find out what was wrong. Of course I had my kids with me and we ate a home cooked meal. Just like home, this is one thing that I truly miss every day. While the kids played with their Grandma, I sat in the rocking chair and fell asleep. So that was one problem that I had, I was officially exhausted. I haven’t been sleeping soundly at home due to having a lot of things on my mind, trying to please others. After I woke up from my 2 hours impromptu nap, I hung around for a while and then headed out to the cemetery. I try to make it a point to have my talk with Grandpa who is not longer with me. It seems like to me that he is the only one that has understood and feels what I am going through. He was and is the only true make role model that I look up to in my life. But he was no longer here, and it’s just me. After we talked I felt relief, however, my daughters we crying too because they missed him as well. I hugged on them and told them that it would be ok and it’s fine to have emotions like that. I reminded them that I would take care of them just as Grandpa took care of me. Then, it hit me. I have to grow up and be a complete man.

What does this mean to be a complete man? I teach boys everyday that being man takes responsibility, desire, and continual prayer. I have been stuck as a boy for the last 32 years of my life and I needed to step up and be a complete man. Being a man means taking care of your children, handling your business and many other things. But being a complete man means that it’s time to fill the shoes of those men that I have gone away to be with God. I can’t blame the world for Grandpa not being around and not having any male role models to talk to, I have to move on. My kids need me and God needs me to make moves that are pleasing to him. I am reminded in the word that when I was child, I spoke as a child and I have done childish things. (1 Chronicles 13:11) Now I am a man, need to be a more complete man, a Godly man. Last week, I was a child that was acting as a man, but now I am striving to become a complete man today.

The time is now to identify what kind of man are you? Are you just a man or are you a complete man? Are you a boy that wants to be just a man or a complete man?

Coming Out of the Cave

Have you ever felt that you just couldn’t make it anymore? Think about it for a moment. Was there a time in your life when you were sitting at home in your special place? Some call it a prayer closet, others the gym, some in their office. It’s just a quiet place where you just have to just get away from the hustle and bustle of the world. We are out of your comfort zone it seems that everything goes wrong. Trouble comes through the enemy from outside forces. This can be through death from a family member or friend. It can also be through an argument with friends or family. Whatever your situation is that may have caused you to go into hiding I want to inspire someone today through this blog that you don’t have to hide forever. God will make a way out.

I have been reading the Word about David. How he ran away from everyone and those he loved to a cave. David felt that he couldn’t take it anymore. He didn’t want to be king, he felt he betrayed his friends and even more importantly, he feared his life. He was a marked man. But in his worse moments, alone in the cave, David continued to have his conversation with God. God sent him men troubled men: those in distress, debt, and troubled. These men had more problems that David. God showed David that he was the almighty that can turn everything around for his good, not David’s. This group of men grew to 400 in support of David but most importantly, God.

God was in the midst when David was at his worst point in his life. He was there for the 400 troubled men that were even worse off than David. But God will always show up in your best and worst times of your life. Whenever you feel like you can’t take it anymore, read 1 Samuel 22 and discover how God showed up with David in cave. God took David out of the cave and made him a leader of great. You can be a leader if you just believe. Believe in his word and believe that he is God alone. He is the one that can supply all of your needs. You have to continue to have mustard seed faith and you can be a mighty leader!